STANDING ON THE EDGE OF A GROUP: THE STRUGGLE TO BELONG

There’s a certain awkwardness in standing just outside a close-knit group. It’s the hesitation to step into a circle that already exists. This space, where one is neither fully in nor completely out, reveals the quiet struggles of belonging and acceptance that shape our social lives.

In many gatherings, whether among family, friends, or colleagues, circles form naturally. They consist of shared histories, inside jokes, and mutual understanding. These circles provide comfort and identity to those within, but can feel like invisible barriers to those on the outside. The person standing at the edge often senses this, caught between the desire to join and the fear of rejection.

This hesitation is universal yet deeply personal. In Nepali social contexts, where community ties and group harmony are greatly valued, the pressure to fit in can be immense. Still, stepping forward means risking awkward silences, misunderstood cues, or even subtle exclusion. The circle’s rhythm is often set, and newcomers must learn its beat without disrupting it.

The struggle is not just about being close physically but also about emotional space—earning trust and proving belonging. Sometimes the invitation is clear; sometimes it is only implied, leaving the outsider to interpret signals that are often unclear. This dance can be exhausting, especially for those who are naturally shy, come from different backgrounds, or are simply new.

But within that edge lies opportunity. Standing there shows courage—the desire to connect despite uncertainty. Sometimes, a simple smile, a shared glance, or an unexpected word can break down the invisible boundary. The circle can widen, slowly including new voices and perspectives.

Recognizing this struggle reminds us to be more welcoming. We should notice those on the margins and offer real invitations. Belonging is not just about being inside the circle; it’s about being willing to make room, lean in, and reach out.