WHY 'KE GARNE' IS NOT LAZINESS BUT LANGUAGE OF ACCEPTANCE
“Ke garne”—two words that echo through daily life in Nepal with a kind of
quiet finality. Spoken in response to missed buses, government delays, rising
prices, failed crops, broken hearts, or just the small frustrations of the
everyday, it is a phrase so deeply woven into the Nepali psyche that it can
feel like a national reflex. To an outsider, or even to some within the
country, it may sound like an excuse, a shrug of helplessness, a verbal
surrender. But to reduce “ke garne” to laziness or apathy is to miss its depth.
This common phrase is not simply about giving up—it is about coming to terms
with what is beyond one’s control. It is the language of endurance, not
indifference.
In its most literal sense, “ke garne” translates to “what to do?” But in
practice, it carries much more than the sum of those two words. It’s a soft
landing after hard news, a verbal exhale when the weight of circumstance
presses too hard. It can be uttered with a laugh, a sigh, a nod, or a shake of
the head. It is often not a question seeking an answer, but a statement dressed
as a question. Sometimes it’s used to comfort others, and sometimes it’s all we
can say to console ourselves.
Nepali life, especially for those in rural or working-class settings, often
involves navigating systems and realities far beyond individual power. Whether
it’s political instability, economic uncertainty, environmental hardship, or
bureaucratic inertia, people regularly face situations where effort and desire
alone are not enough. In such a context, “ke garne” becomes a form of emotional
resilience. It does not mean people do not care, or that they have stopped
trying. It means they have recognized the limits of their control, and instead
of collapsing under it, they have found a language to live with it.
The beauty of “ke garne” is its gentleness. It does not protest loudly, nor
does it preach toxic positivity. It is not bitter, but it is not naive either.
It exists in a middle space—accepting what is, without romanticizing it. It
allows people to carry on with dignity, even when the situation cannot be
changed. It reflects a certain maturity, a groundedness in reality that many
modern cultures—obsessed with control, with fixing, with optimizing—often lack.
In urban circles and among the younger generation, the phrase is sometimes
viewed with skepticism, even mockery. It is seen as a barrier to progress, a
symptom of a fatalistic mindset that holds the country back. And it’s true that
excessive reliance on “ke garne” can become dangerous if it turns into learned
helplessness or social complacency. When institutions fail and people stop
demanding better, resignation can begin to rot into indifference. But that is
not the fault of the phrase—it is the result of what happens when resignation
is allowed to become the only mode of existence.
At its best, “ke garne” is not the end of the road—it is a resting place.
It gives people the emotional room to absorb setbacks without losing their will
entirely. It offers a temporary pause, not permanent paralysis. People who say
“ke garne” may still get up early the next morning to work in their fields,
line up at offices, protest in the streets, or send their children to school.
The phrase may mark disappointment, but it rarely marks defeat.
There is also an emotional intelligence to “ke garne” that deserves
recognition. It acknowledges suffering without dramatizing it. It builds quiet
solidarity—when two people say it to each other after sharing bad news, they
are not just commenting on the situation; they are sharing the emotional burden
of it. In that brief exchange, there is companionship, understanding, and
often, a kind of peace.
Language reveals how a society sees the world, and “ke garne” reveals a
worldview that is deeply aware of life’s unpredictability. It’s a reminder that
not everything can be pushed or planned, and that sometimes, survival itself is
a form of resistance. In that sense, “ke garne” is not laziness at all—it is
wisdom worn into the grain of daily life. It is what people say when they’ve
done what they can, and they still choose to go on.
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