LEANING ON WALLS BUT NOT ON PEOPLE: THE DANCE BETWEEN PHYSICAL COMFORT AND EMOTIONAL VULNERABILITY

In bustling streets, crowded gatherings, or quiet corners, we often see people leaning against walls. They rest their tired bodies and find a moment of physical support. Yet, ironically, many of these same people hesitate to lean on others for emotional comfort. This difference between seeking physical support and resisting emotional vulnerability reveals a deep story about how we connect and protect ourselves.

Leaning on a wall is easy. It requires no words or explanations. The wall does not judge, argue, or demand anything. It provides a steady and unchanging presence. In contrast, leaning on people—sharing our fears, asking for help, exposing our insecurities—takes courage and trust. It makes us vulnerable, opening us up to potential rejection or misunderstanding.

In Nepali society, where emotional restraint often mixes with social expectations, this issue is especially clear. Cultural norms promote resilience, patience, and keeping personal struggles private to avoid burdening others or disrupting social harmony. Consequently, many learn early to rely on themselves or inanimate supports instead of finding solace in relationships.

However, this hesitation to lean on others comes with a price. Emotional isolation can lead to loneliness, even in crowds. Walls can support our bodies, but they cannot heal wounds, offer empathy, or share burdens. True support demands mutual vulnerability—a willingness to be seen completely, flaws and fears included.

Recognizing this tension invites change. What if leaning on others felt as natural as leaning on a wall? What if emotional support represented not weakness, but a vital part of our shared strength? Overcoming this barrier could transform relationships, deepen empathy, and create communities where comfort is shared—not just physically, but emotionally as well.

In the end, walls may support our bodies, but it is people who support our hearts. Learning to rely on each other might be the bravest step toward genuine connection.