THE LONG PAUSE BEFORE SAYING ‘NO’: REJECTION COATED WITH RELUCTANCE, NOT RUDENESS
In Nepali culture, a simple “no” is rarely just a straightforward refusal. Instead, it often comes with hesitation, pauses, and a careful choice of words, creating a rhythm that softens rejection and protects relationships. That long pause before saying “no” doesn’t show indecisiveness or confusion; it is a deliberate act, showing reluctance rather than rudeness. Saying “no” directly can sound harsh or disrespectful, especially in a society that values harmony and saving face. People often pause, sometimes noticeably, before responding. This silence is significant; it acts as a buffer. It gives someone time to consider the impact of the refusal and to prepare the listener emotionally. The pause acknowledges both the request and the person making it, signaling, “I hear you, and I respect you, even if my answer will disappoint you.” This cultural practice reveals a lot about how rejection is communicated here. Rather than a cold denial, the long pause offers a gentle way to deliver...